Saturday, February 21, 2015

Giving up ourselves for others

by David Sellnow

Have you given up something for Lent?  That’s historically been a Roman Catholic custom, but a lot of Christians of various varieties use Lent as a time to set aside things of this world and focus on faith.  And nowadays the practice of giving up something for Lent has been adopted by many non-religious people too.    31-year-old David Powers of Los Angeles, disc jockey and band member and medical marijuana seller, hasn’t participated in church since he was in high school.  But as a personal thing, during Lent he gives up his own marijuana use.  He says, “Lent has been a great excuse for me to take a much-needed break from pot, and I have learned that I really don't need it to get by. … I think that the idea of giving up something that you love, especially something that isn't especially good for you, once a year, is a really good idea that everyone could benefit from.”[1]

David Powers’ approach – give up something you love for a while – is a popular approach.  According to the ultimate source of truth on what’s happening in the world – Twitter – the #1 thing that people are giving up for Lent is chocolate.  Fast food and junk food rank in the top ten also.  Oh, and the #2 thing people are giving up, according to Twitter, is … Twitter.[2]   So, well, maybe that’s not an entirely reliable source of truth then.

I don’t want to trivialize the habits of those who give up something for Lent in a serious-minded way as a part of a Christ-centered devotional focus.    After all, as a very gospel-focused man once said, “Fasting and other outward preparations may serve a good purpose.”[3]  But I do wonder if the whole concept of me giving up something for a while to try to be a better me is missing the point of what it means to live a life of faith.

What if instead of me giving up some small thing (like chocolate or junk food) for six weeks, the Lord asked me to give up my whole self for my whole life?   What if living as a redeemed and reborn person in Christ meant, in my relationships with others, having “the same mindset as Christ Jesus” (Philippians 2:5)?  That for you it means you “do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit” but instead you “value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you looking to the interests of the others” (Philippians 2:3,4)?   That is, of course, exactly the sort of life Christ calls us to live as his people —
  • Christ, who himself came not to be served but to serve; 
  • Christ, who gave himself as a ransom for many (cf. Mark 10:45); 
  • Christ who, as the apostle Paul reminded us, “gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good” (Titus 2:14).
My brothers and sisters, redeemed people of God in Christ, rescued from our own sinfulness and set free to live in love by the strength of Jesus’ love for us, we are called to give up ourselves, to give up our selfishness, to give up our me-first attitudes … and to do so not just for Lent but for all our days.

The apostle Paul talked about giving up ourselves—putting ourselves in second place in relationship to others—in regard to matters we refer to as adiaphora, matters where there is not one absolute way in which we must view things or do things. In “disputable matters,” as Paul termed them, the important thing is that we give up our own ambition to be always right or always in charge or always getting our way and live in love and consideration of one another.

These are selected verses from Paul’s letter to the Romans (14:1 thru 15:7):

  • Accept the one whose faith is weak, without quarreling over disputable matters. ... 
  •  For none of us lives for ourselves alone,and none of us dies for ourselves alone.  If we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die, we die for the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord. For this very reason, Christ died and returned to life so that he might be the Lord of both the dead and the living.
  • You, then, why do you judge your brother or sister? Or why do you treat them with contempt? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat. ...
  • Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister. ...
  • Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification. .  We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves.  Each of us should please our neighbors for their good, to build them up.  For even Christ did not please himself but, as it is written: “The insults of those who insult you have fallen on me.” ...  May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
  • Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.



[1] Gabrielle Canon, Celebrating Lent: Why Non-Religious Millennials are Choosing to Sacrifice,” Southern California Public Radio (March 29, 2013).  http://www.scpr.org/news/2013/03/29/36612/celebrating-lent-why-non-religious-millennials-are/

[3] Martin Luther, Small Catechism – “The Reception of Holy Communion”

Saturday, February 7, 2015

Cleansed by Christ

Life has been busy lately.  If you're a follower of this blog, I thank you for your patience -- it's been a month since I added new content.  I hope to have a new crop of student writing to feature here in the weeks/months ahead.

In one of my classes, I gave students this essay prompt:

  • A friend of yours is struggling with both hatred and self-loathing.  She had dated a guy for three years and they had become close, very serious.  He had always pushed the physical side of their relationship, and eventually she yielded to him and their relationship became a sexual one.  Actually, she also had welcomed that part of the relationship because it made her feel loved and valued.  But then it seemed like the boyfriend tired of her.  She found out he actually was pursuing other women too (including sexually), and then he broke off the relationship with her.  Now she is struggling against constant feelings of hatred toward him, wishing all sorts of evil and harm would happen to him.  And she’s full of shame and disgust with herself, feeling like she will forever be a “slut” (as she now thinks of herself). Write a letter to your friend that talks about repentance and forgiveness and encourages her in her spirit in Jesus.  Help her find a way to move forward with an understanding of how repentance works and how our lives are changed by the gospel of forgiveness in Christ.

The following devotional piece was written in response to the essay prompt.   


Dear Ashley
by Alison Wine

Hey, beautiful!  I'm writing to you because I know how bad things have gotten recently.  It breaks my heart to know how much you are suffering.  I want to remind you of something:  God loves you more than you can understand!  He has loved you with an everlasting love.  No matter what you have done or thought, or felt, God has loved you always.  He sent Jesus to die for all those thoughts, feelings and actions -- for all of your sins.  I know how heavy your heart is about what you had done.  The sorrow you feel is the first step toward repentance.  Now let faith take over.  You are forgiven of all that you have done wrong.  Jesus' blood covers up your every sin.  You are his child.  Period.  Is God's child a slut?  No.  Does God think of you that way?  No.  Should you think of yourself that way?  No.  You are holy and blameless in God's sight.  Rejoice in this fact.  God doesn't need you to be perfect.  He is perfect for you.  You can release the weight you've been carrying around .  Unpin the "scarlet A" from your life.  Throw that stain away.  Look at yourself the way God does -- as his beloved, forgiven child.  And you now may live in that way.
 
Now, Ashley, about Alex.  I understand how angry and hurt you are about what he did.  It is truly terrible.  But does the hatred for him that you are carrying around in your heart help you in any way?  No.  Carrying hatred in your heart is never good.  God tells us not to let the sun go down while we are still angry.  Alex may not be sorry for what he has done, but you don't do him or yourself any good by harboring hatred for him.  What keeps you from letting go of your hatred toward him?  Your pride?  Your sense of justice?  Or your own sinful nature?

Pray about this, Ashley, Forgiving Alex will hurt, but ultimately will make your life better.  Release the hatred from your heart and have that void be filled with Christ.  Take your time; forgiveness doesn't mean you instantly will forget or that what he did doesn't matter.  But it does mean that you are aligning yourself with God's will, and being guided by his love.  

I love you, Ashley, and so does God!
Your friend, 
Ali